Train your sensing muscle. In yourself, and in others.
The PME Sensing Quad is a practice tool for training your sensing muscle. It works in pairs and takes about twenty minutes.
You use it when you want to get better at reading what is actually happening, in yourself and in the person across from you. Not interpreting, not diagnosing. Sensing. Noticing what is there before you start making stories about it.
One person speaks for six minutes. The other person only senses. No advice, no fixing, no reassurance. You scan three layers:
The observer's job is to reflect something back. Paraphrase, or offer a hunch as a question: "I'm sensing... is that right?"
After the round, both people rate all four dimensions from 1 to 5. Be honest. Your lowest score is the point.
How close were they to what was actually true.
When it was their turn to be read.
Here and connected, or drifting and half-forming my reply.
In the hot seat, and how well I put what I feel and think into words.
Sense others low? Train curiosity. Present low? Stop drifting, stay in it. Sense self low? Build the daily scan. Being sensed low? Let people in, close the gap.
The PME Sensing Quad as a printable card you can use in sessions.
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